Kevin Figueroa started jiu-jitsu in 2000 in Riverside, California when the sport barely existed there — a submission grappling school called USKO was the closest thing available. He came from a family of twelve as the oldest son, chose trades over MMA because family responsibility came first, became a journeyman industrial electrician managing pumps and wells for the City of Riverside, and found his way to Gracie Barra Riverside where he has trained under Professor Tom Reusing — a black belt in jiu-jitsu, judo, and karate, and a Marine — ever since. He received his black belt three years ago, immediately entered the black belt competition circuit, coaches the Gracie Barra Riverside competition team, and teaches no-gi classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays for the hobbyist community he has deliberately built. He is 44, a father of two, and a grandfather. His daughter Lola competed at a masters level in high school wrestling and is a blue belt in BJJ. His Instagram curates the best nuggets from the podcasts and resources he consumes so that nobody has to sit through three hours to find the ten minutes that mattered.
Kevin Figueroa is the person I started this podcast for. A man who works a full trade — industrial electrician managing water infrastructure for a city, nine-hour days in the sun — comes home, generates energy for his wife and kids for an hour, drives to the gym, teaches jiu-jitsu for ninety minutes, answers questions in the lobby for fifteen more, sometimes stops at the grocery store on the way home, and does this consistently enough that it is no longer effort. It is identity. He is 44. He is a black belt. He is a grandfather. He is relentless.
What makes this conversation different is that Kevin is not a full-time athlete or a content creator who trains. He is someone who built jiu-jitsu into a full life rather than organizing his life around jiu-jitsu — and the framework he arrived at, without a coach or a podcast or a community to tell him how, is one of the most practically applicable things I have heard in 104 episodes. The modulation concept. The community-as-infrastructure principle. The tornado entry. The VFD analogy. The ten-minute husband. These are not jiu-jitsu concepts. They are life management concepts that jiu-jitsu taught him — and they are exactly what the midlife grappler who is two months in and already burning out needs to hear.
Riverside, 2000: How the Oldest Son of Twelve Found His Way to the Mats
Kevin grew up in Riverside doing karate for four years, boxing for three, and watching wrestling in high school without being allowed to participate because his parents found it strange. When he graduated in 2000, he sought out what he had been watching from the outside — and what he found was not really called jiu-jitsu yet. Submission grappling. No-gi. MMA. USKO in Riverside was the school, and the training floor was full of tough guys who humbled him immediately. A 14-year-old weighing 120 pounds arm barred, triangled, and swept him from closed guard while Kevin sat at 180 and assumed the size would mean something. It did not. He was in love from that moment.
But the oldest son of a family of twelve carries obligations that most twenty-year-olds do not. His parents were clear: jujitsu is great, but college or a job comes first. Kevin chose the trades. Electrical apprenticeship. A few years in the field finding his footing. Then jiu-jitsu schools started appearing in the area — Gracie Barra Riverside among them — and he walked back through the door, this time to stay.
"I'm going to run off and leave to watch somebody else get his glory while he's watching me having great rounds here. I've never looked at other sports the same way since."
— Professor Kevin Figueroa · @kevinfigueroabjjProfessor Tom Reusing — black belt in jiu-jitsu, black belt in judo, black belt in karate, Marine — was the instructor who did the reframing that stuck. Kevin was leaving class early one Tuesday night to catch the fourth quarter of a Kobe game. Tom stopped him with one sentence: you're going to go watch another man get his glory while I'm watching you get yours here. Kevin never watched sports the same way. The external hero worship that had been consuming hours of his week redirected inward — toward his own development, his own rounds, his own progress. That reframe is the inflection point the rest of this conversation builds from.
Beginner Again: What the First Three Years of Black Belt Competition Taught Him
Kevin received his black belt and immediately entered the black belt competition circuit. This is not the universal choice — plenty of new black belts take a year to settle into the rank before competing — and he is self-aware enough to note that even his own arrogance in the late brown belt years contributed to a drift away from his professor's instruction. He had started seeking seminars and outside sources, paying good money to fly to Las Vegas, only to hear in a paid seminar context the exact closed guard detail that Professor Tom had been explaining since white belt. The detail clicked when he heard it from someone with more notoriety. The lesson was about who was holding the knowledge all along.
What the black belt circuit provided was a recalibration. Competing against people who had been black belts for seven or eight years when you have been one for three weeks produces a very clear picture of where you actually stand — not where your reputation in your gym says you stand, but where the level genuinely is. Kevin describes it not as defeat but as revelation: the water is deep. The learning is not over. The beginner mind is not a cliché — it is the only productive orientation available to someone who wants to keep improving past the rank that most people treat as a destination.
"I'm in love with learning again. Even a white belt with a fresh idea — tell me about it. Just because I've been a black belt for three years doesn't mean I stop listening."
— Professor Kevin Figueroa · @kevinfigueroabjjHis Instagram reflects this. Rather than positioning himself as an authority dispensing technique, Kevin uses the platform as a curation service — pulling the ten minutes that mattered from two-hour podcasts, crediting the source, condensing the signal and removing the noise. He noticed that sending people to full-length content meant they did not engage with it. So he became the filter. The library of Alexandria metaphor he uses is precise: everything is in there, but not everyone can find what they need. His page is the index.
The Men's Group That Nobody Named: How a Gym Became a Brotherhood
The most distinctive thing Kevin has built at Gracie Barra Riverside is not the competition team. It is the Tuesday/Thursday hobbyist community — the group of men who were not necessarily planning to compete, who showed up because they wanted to move and sweat and be part of something, and who stayed because Kevin made space for them to become something more than training partners.
The observation that crystallized his approach: men lost the place where they could sit and talk. The bar — whatever its other costs — was a space where a guy could say to a friend, mid-conversation, that things were hard at work, that something was wrong, that he needed to be heard. That space has largely disappeared for men who are not drinking, who are training, who have wives who are right not to want the bar scene back. But the need did not disappear with the space. What Kevin built was a replacement infrastructure: the post-class lobby, the WhatsApp group that functions as a banter and check-in channel, the explicit permission to stay after and be present with each other rather than packing up and going home.
Kevin is open about his own bad days. When he walks in from a nine-hour shift where the city's water infrastructure was being probed, bosses were yelling, and three pumps went down — and he does not have his usual energy — he stops class mid-warm-up and says so. The effect is the opposite of what most instructors fear when they show vulnerability: the team rallies. They make the class their own. They hold space for him the way they have learned to hold it for each other, because he showed them it was allowed.
Kevin does not rush people out after class. He creates the conditions for the post-training decompression that most gyms accidentally cut short by closing procedures and parking lot logistics. The men huddle. They laugh. They talk about training, about workout routines, about what is going on in their lives. The gym becomes the location where those conversations happen rather than a place people pass through on the way to somewhere else.
Kevin notices when people are not at class but does not always call it out publicly. What he has cultivated is a team that notices for him. The message goes into the group: hey, I haven't seen Ramon. Then the team is on the horn. Sometimes the response is that life intervened — kids were sick, deliveries needed to happen. The response Kevin gets back from those members is consistent: this is an amazing community. He knows it is. He also knows it did not happen by accident. It happened because he was vocal first.
Kevin films training — not just competition class but his Tuesday/Thursday hobbyist sessions — and posts the highlight reels to Instagram. The effect on the people in those videos is one he did not fully anticipate: hobbyists who thought they were not doing anything worth filming see themselves moving well on camera and realize something the voice in their head was not telling them. You look like a star. That's what you actually look like. You just couldn't see it. The camera becomes a confidence tool as much as a study tool, and knowing the camera might be on produces the same effect in training as showing up for a real round.
The VFD Principle: How an Electrician Learned to Run His Own Motor
The conceptual framework that Kevin returns to throughout this conversation is modulation — a word he arrived at through his work with variable frequency drives and soft start systems in industrial electrical applications. A VFD allows a motor to be ramped up when peak demand requires it and ramped down when it does not. A motor run at maximum capacity continuously fails faster and costs more than one that is managed intelligently. A motor that is modulated correctly can run for thirty years.
He applied this to his daughter's training first, after his wife pulled him aside and pointed out that the patience he showed with other students was absent when he was coaching Lola. The expectation was too high. The tone was wrong. The coach-father identity confusion was costing him the relationship his daughter needed him for. He made the distinction: I want to be dad. She will have many coaches. She will have one father. He handed coaching to others, showed up in the stands, held the camera and the snacks, and the result was a daughter who became one of the most technically complete athletes in his circle — partly because he became an excellent training partner (a great uke is hard to find) rather than an overbearing instructor.
"She's going to have many coaches in this world. I just want to be dad. I want to hold the video camera. I want to hold the snacks. I want to hug her if she wins or loses."
— Professor Kevin Figueroa · @kevinfigueroabjjHe then applied modulation to himself. The wife who says "you're going to go train right now?" is not nagging — she is providing the external signal that the motor needs to slow down. Kevin recognized this and built it into his framework: when he senses that signal, he takes it as information rather than friction. He adjusts. He stays. He invests the hour in the relationship before heading to the gym, or he does not go to the gym, and that is not laziness — that is the system working correctly. You only run it hard when hard is required.
- Cold plunge every morning. He does not like the cold. That is the point. The discomfort of the cold plunge is where the planning happens — where he aligns his breath and maps the day before it begins. It resets the mind from whatever happened the previous day and produces a state of focus he has not found any other way. The recovery benefits are real and secondary. The mental benefit is primary.
- The priority list — applied to home the same way it's applied to work. At work, Kevin walks in and immediately builds a priority list: what needs to happen first, what is urgent, what can move to tomorrow. He realized he was not doing this at home. He was coming in and immediately going into passive mode before training. The fix: walk in as a tornado — high energy, intentional, doing things, moving — for the window available before heading to the gym. The family gets presence rather than a body going through motions.
- Chiropractic adjustment once a week. A tough sport requires structural maintenance. Not twice a month, not when something hurts. Weekly, as a non-negotiable, the way a motor gets scheduled maintenance rather than emergency repair.
- The nightly check-in. In the shower before bed, Kevin asks himself how he is doing. Whether he has injuries that need to be addressed. Whether he needs rest. Whether there are relationships he needs to check in on. This is not a formal protocol — it is a habit of self-examination that replaces the accumulated silence most men carry until something breaks.
- The wife as governor. When the signal comes that home needs attention more than the gym, Kevin takes it. Not every time. Not as a pattern that erodes training. As a calibration input from the person who has the best view of the whole system. The training will be there. The relationship requires presence that cannot be made up on a different night.
Breathe or Tap — The Cold Plunge's Missing Partner
Kevin's cold plunge practice works because it forces him into breath control and intentional alignment before the day begins. Breathe or Tap — my breathwork deep dive for jiu-jitsu practitioners and midlife recovery — is the structured version of exactly that: using breath to build the CO₂ tolerance, parasympathetic access, and composure under pressure that keeps you technical when the round gets hard. If the cold plunge resets your morning, Breathe or Tap resets your training. Find it at ThatJiujiteiro.com or on YouTube at @thatjiujiteiro.
Staying Dangerous After 40: What That Actually Looks Like at 44
I asked Kevin what staying dangerous after 40 means to him. He became a grandfather at 44. His first response to holding that grandchild was not warmth alone — it was resolve. This kid needs me. I need to double up on training. I need to make more money. I need to be strong for her. The instinct toward protectiveness and provision that jiu-jitsu has always been partly about crystallized around something that made it real and immediate in a way that competition goals never fully do.
Staying dangerous at 44 means going to the competition class with athletes who are world class — Kendall Reusing, who just competed at Polaris in London, and Saul Vieira, who holds the fastest submission in sub-only history at 40 seconds — and holding them for seven minutes before they can get him. Not because the outcome is the same as it would have been at 24. Because it is still real. Because the standard is still high. Because the body that wakes up at 4:30 AM, works nine hours in industrial infrastructure, goes home and generates family energy for an hour, then teaches ninety minutes of jiu-jitsu and answers questions in the lobby for fifteen more — that body is still in the room, still competing, still learning, still relentless.
"Father time is undefeated. But I'm going to fight him to the end. I'm going to give it everything I have before he gets me."
— Professor Kevin Figueroa · @kevinfigueroabjjHis advice to the white-collar office worker who still sees jiu-jitsu as barbaric: it is 2026. Most gyms are not the early 90s. You will not be bullied. You will not walk into a room of people trying to hurt you. You will walk into a room of people who were exactly where you are, who were scared of the same things, who stayed because of what happened after they stayed. The 47-year-old man who walked into his gym thinking he would get bullied and trained for a year to become one of Kevin's most dangerous athletes is not an exception. He is the pattern. He just had to try.
Relentless
He thought for a beat. Then:
Relentless.
Not because it sounds good. Because it describes exactly what he has been doing since 2000 in a submission grappling school in Riverside when nobody was watching and there was no community and no podcast and no framework to tell him this was worth pursuing. He has been relentless through the years when work took over. Through the oldest-son obligations that pushed training aside. Through the early arrogance that made him tune out the professor who had been right all along. Through the knee injury that has kept him out of competition for eight months. Through the thirty years between the white belt who got arm barred by a 14-year-old and the black belt who coaches world-class competitors and teaches hobbyist men how to build a community out of a gym.
Relentless does not mean stubborn. It does not mean ignoring the signals the body sends. Kevin is precise about this: modulation is part of relentlessness. You run the motor hard when the demand requires it. You ramp it down when it does not. You shut it off when rest is what the system needs. What you do not do is stop. If the door closes, you go around it, over it, under it. You keep moving. You keep chasing. You keep showing up — for your wife, for your kids, for your grandkid, for your training partners who need you in that lobby, for the 40-something in your Tuesday class who never thought of himself as an athlete until you told him he was one.
I told Kevin at the end of this episode that he and I are saying the same things from different sides of the country. We have been living in parallel — different backstories, same framework, same conviction. This show exists because of people like him, and for people like the men in his Tuesday/Thursday class who needed a community before they knew they needed it.
Stay relentless.
Fuel for the Long Game
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Kevin's Instagram is the resource he built so that nobody has to sit through three hours of podcast to find the ten minutes that mattered. He curates, condenses, and credits the sources. He posts competition highlights, hobbyist training reels, and the kind of practical wisdom that accumulates over twenty-plus years on the mats. Follow him and watch the comments — the community he has built shows up there too.
Stay Dangerous. Stay on the Mats. Hard to Kill in Midlife.
